Growing up my dad would often tell me "You need to be more flexible Megan." I never really liked to hear it, but I knew he was right. If my plans were changed at the last minute, I would have a hard time adjusting. I love a well-executed plan!
Well Dad, like it or not, I am learning to be more flexible. I don't really have a choice - motherhood has forced it upon me! To be an inflexible mom is a very miserable existence. Kids have a way of messing up even the best-laid plans.
Consider the following:
- You plan to go to Bible study in the morning only to have your daughter throw-up in the middle of the night forcing you to cancel your plans.
- Your goal of the day is to clean the downstairs portion of your home, but little hands follow you at a distance, undoing all you've done.
- You are excited to wear your new dress to church only to have it covered in spit-up minutes before you leave.
- You are looking so forward to nap time - you NEED a break, but for some reason your children decide to take turns crying leaving you no peace.
I could go on and on, but I won't - I think you get the idea! When my frustration levels start to rise because things are just not going as planned I try to remind myself of two things:
1. It is not about me - Usually my inflexibility is based on my own selfishness. Reminding myself that it really isn't about me, helps keep things in perspective.
2. This is just a season of life - Life is full of seasons and those seasons are constantly changing. This reminds me to cherish every moment with my child, even the unplanned ones, because this season will be over all too quickly.
Although I still get frustrated when my plans get ambushed, I am learning to be more flexible. Dad, I think you would be proud!