Friday, September 03, 2010

Suhn - An Update

It's been a little over two months since we first received our little Rui of Suhnshine. A crazy two months it has been. Ups. Downs. Tears. Cheers. And even though it has only been two months, it feels like forever. I can't imagine life without our Suhn.

She is a happy little girl that fits our family like a glove. But then, she has been God's plan for our family all along so that should come as no surprise.

I have discovered that bonding and attachment is a process that takes time. It did not "happen" as quickly as I hoped. Knowing myself and the way I am wired that too, should come as no surprise.

I've heard it said the first days/weeks/months with a newly adopted child can feel like babysitting. I understand that in some respects. But it is different too. There have been days when I have not felt as attached to Suhn, where I have lost patience quicker than I should have, where it maybe felt a little like babysitting. However, in those days my commitment to her never wavered. That is where it is different.

Two weeks ago it felt like we turned a corner. Emotions have leveled out and we are getting down to the business of living life as best we can. A family of seven.


One of the biggest joys of the past two months has been watching our kids. They have welcomed Suhn with open arms. I love watching them love on her. The tenderness they show her and the love she rebounds back to them.

I love watching her laugh at them and joyfully exclaim "hey guys!" when they run up to her.


And then there is Mya and Suhn. These two have a special relationship which is something I had prayed for. I love watching God's answer.



As emotions have leveled, the relationship between Suhn and Sean has blossomed as well. Don't get me wrong, there is still a LOT of two-year old behavior going on, but these two get each other. They laugh at the same things. They like the same games. They clap together when they hear clapping on the radio.


He probably bugs her the most, makes her cry the quickest, and completely adores her.



We are transitioning into our new normal; busy with school, weekly PT sessions, learning to navigate 5 children ages 7 and under... I'll stop there.
Life is full.
God is good.
Giving thanks.
Amen.

20 comments:

smw said...

i am so thankful to hear about the last couple of weeks. that's so wonderful. :)

Kirk and Keri Plattner said...

I love seeing the pictures and hearing stories of her with her siblings. What a blessed girl! Thank you for sharing Megan. It seems too long till I can meet her.

Kristy said...

Loved the update- she is such a doll!

Emily said...

:) i hear ya- 5 under 8- we sleep great!

Janell said...

She's adorable Megan. Thankful that the pieces fit together just like God intended. I love how you said she fits your family like a glove. Amen. We feel the same w/ Jada.

Michelle said...

So happy to hear that Meagan. And i am not surprised in any way! You are her parents and were meant to be. Attachment is such a process....At the IA clinic here, we were advised to consider the 1st 6 months really formative in that process, but to know it's a long process with ups and downs and highest peaks and things that trigger some things and you go back a bit. And it's all just part of it.

I am so grateful to be able share the journey with people like you and Korey.

megs @ whadusay said...

Right back at ya Michelle!

Taylor said...

Oh this warms my heart!!! I even cried a little! I am so glad to hear the update on Suhn - I can't believe it has been two months!! She truly is a blessed little girl!

Rachel said...

Megan, all of your kids are so beautiful :). It is so neat to see the HUGE smiles on Suhn's face. You can feel the love she has with her new family radiating from her face. Pretty awesome.

Have a great Labor Day weekend!

~Rachel

Mom said...

Praising God for His blessings in your home! We too are so thankful to have Suhn a part of our lives! It is soooo good to see everyone adjusting to a new normal! We love you all!

Dad & Mom K.

Michelle said...

What encouraging news, Megan! So thankful that the Lord is at work helping each of you to adjust to your new normal. Trusting Him to continue to bind you all together and to richly bless your precious family.
-Michelle Parker

Jessica said...

I just kept smiling while reading this post...

Jill Foley said...

This is such a great update! Praising God with you!

Daish said...

Meg, I just love you. It's great to hear your thoughts on life with 5 kids. It's great to hear it's going pretty well! Love you lots.

Linda Schuhmacher said...

Wonderful! Thanks for the update! I am enjoying following your family.

Jami @ livelaughlove5 said...

amen and amen! love the pics!

Kasey said...

Thanks for the update Megan! You have such an adorable family! Love you all!

Tami said...

Hey there, Mego. :) I absolutely LOVED watching Suhn with the other kids and you and Kory last Monday. She's such a sweetheart and your relationships within your family touched me...I know it sounds weird, but it did. I love you all.

Genny said...

Megan,
I am so happy for you... she is so darling, and your family is just beautiful. What a wonderful, amazing time. You are an inspiration!

Genny

Kofan said...

Hey! It's me Lena - the interpreter!
Oh, Megan, tears came into my eyes as I was reading this post! Tears of JOY. You are a unique family! One of a kind! I bsolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE reading your blog every now and then and followe your family's life.
Say hi to Kory.
Me :)