Wednesday, January 30, 2013

The Great Room Swap

We called it the "Great Room Swap."

It involved paint, moving furniture, new/used bedspreads, swapping closets and each kid moving to a different bedroom than they'd had before.

It was slightly daunting and also exciting.

Exciting because the end result meant we were ready for one more. Daunting because it would be a b-u-t-t load of work.

And work we did, for four days straight. We recruited help (thanks mom!) and the end result was something we were all pleased with.

Room #1: Originally shared by the three boys. We thought four boys would be a little much. Besides, it was time for the girls to share, but since the girls would be using twin beds, we decided they would be getting the bigger room. Out go the boys...



(good bye little airplanes painted with love)

In come the girls...




Room #2: Mya's room. When she moved out...



The twins moved in...




And that leaves us with Suhn's room, the easiest room change because we didn't have to paint!

Out goes Suhn...



Here comes Sean, AND very, VERY soon, Zak!



One huge task off my to-do list. 

And five happy kids who have spent a LOT more time in their rooms this past week (of their own free will).

That is what I call a win-win.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

The Final Stages of the Wait for it...

I had intended to write a blog post about the final stages of our adoption wait. You know telling you what we were waiting for, how long we might be waiting, what life in the wait was like. But then life happened, my Grandma moved to Heaven, work with Hearts at Home stepped up a notch (remind me to tell you about that!), the great room swap took place (pictures to come) and blogging to a back seat to everything.

And now, the post I was going to write is no longer necessary

Because

Wait for it




WE HAVE OUR TRAVEL APPROVAL FROM CHINA!!!!

The last thing we were waiting on came our way yesterday! This week we will be making travel arrangements and then in exactly 4 weeks we will be on a plane to CHINA to bring our boy HOME!!!



Crazy, Crazy, in the best crazy kind of way.

The whole process from start to finish will have taken exactly 9 months (plus 1 week).

God is good and his faithfulness and provision has been evident through every step of this journey. I can't wait to see what else He has in store.

But for now, it is time to start packing because we are GOING TO CHINA!

Hang on Zak-man, we are coming to bring you HOME!!!

Sunday, January 13, 2013

The God who Sees

This month, I have been re-reading stories of God's faithfulness.

His faithfulness to Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and Joseph.

His faithfulness to Hagar, the slave who said, "You are the God who sees me." (Genesis 16:13)

And, the same God who was faithful to the patriarchs of old, has continued to care for His children to this day.

My sweet, elegant Grandma died unexpectedly last week. She was saying her prayers when a brain aneurysm ended her life. She was talking to her God in this world and in an instant was in His presence in the Next.

It has been a week filled with tears, remembering, and overwhelming thanksgiving. Thanksgiving for her life and thanksgiving for the care in which our Faithful God carried her home. He saw her. He loved her. He took care of her.

His goodness has been evident through the stories shared of last words and visits within our family.

The God who was faithful to Abraham was so faithful to my dear Grandma.

I am so sad by her passing. I am going to miss her terribly, but her life and death have been vivid reminders to me of God's faithfulness, love and care. And while there is a gaping hole left by her absence in this world, some day I will see her again and together we will praise forever our faithful God who sees us.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

They're Back

To wish you a Merry Christmas!!




Hope your holiday is filled with Joy!

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Encourage them to Go


This series has taken a little longer than I thought it would. If you have stuck with me throughout, thank you!!

This last one is one of the most important:

#10 Don't Squelch or Limit what God is doing in the lives of your Kids

At Vacation Bible School last summer, the kids were trying to raise money for a local charity. As we were getting read to go to one of the last classes, one of my kids came down with his piggy bank, proceeded to take the majority of the money out and asked if he could give it to the charity that night.

It was a sweet, generous gesture.

Would you like to know what my first thought was?

I wanted to ask him if he was sure he wanted to give that much.

I wanted to limit his generosity because it felt like he was making too big of a sacrifice, you know, so he could spend that $20 on some cheap toy instead.

Thankfully, God talked me down before I talked him down. I ended up encouraging him in his giving. Even though, to my shame, I felt the desire to hold him back.

I was talking to a dear friend whose kids are grown about this topic and asked her what they did to encourage a global perspective in their kids. She told me,

I don't think we did anything specific. But, I do think that as we saw how God was growing our kids' hearts, we tried not to squelch or limit what he was doing. As parents, when we are students of our child's design, and see what their "bent" is, we want to encourage and challenge them to explore possibilities. For example, when our daughter talked about being a missionary when she was in 5th grade, we told her we thought that was great.
Frankly this can be easier said than done. Encouraging my daughter to be a missionary is one thing. But then, watching her become one and be placed in potentially dangerous situations is another. I hope when the time comes I will encourage my kids in what God has called them to no matter what I feel on the inside, even when doing so compromises their safety.

Christians are not called to live a safe life. We are called to obey where we are called to go no matter what.

When we see a call being placed on our kids, let's don't try to hold them back. Instead, let's encourage them to go.

That last sentence was the perfect place to stop, but at the risk of creating a post that is too long I want to add one more thought before I close out this series on global perspective.

You might follow all ten of these suggestions to encourage a global perspective in your kids and one hundred more and there is a chance that your kids will not care in the slightest. We can do all the right things as parents, but in the end our kids have free will. We are not responsible for what they choose. We are responsible to faithfully parent and teach our kids God's truths.

They must choose how they will live it out.

One of my kids had a small excerpt published in our local paper. The topic was "How would you spend one million dollars?" I immediately thought of all the orphans he would help. Instead he wrote this:

"I would buy a Nerf sword and Nerf gun. I would buy lots of toys at garage sales."

It is a hilarious answer and even if the thought of giving money away did not enter his sweet head, at least he was being frugal with his purchases. We do our best to teach and broaden his perspective, but in the end it is up to him to choose.

Thanks again for following along with this little series. If you have any additional ideas to share, please do! I appreciate every comment you have made. So many of you are living this out and I am so thankful for the examples you are to me as we journey on together.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

LOA!!!!!




It's been a big week at our house. 

Monday afternoon the e-mail saying our LOA had arrived dinged in my inbox. 

On Tuesday, we received, signed, marked the box that said "We accept" and overnighted that precious piece of paper back to our agency.

Just in case you aren't immersed in Chinese adoption lingo and are a little hazy on what LOA actually means... It means China has officially given us their approval to adopt Zak. It is a HUGE step forward in our adoption process and hopefully means we will be on our way to China in 10 - 14 weeks. 

Which is a good thing. A very good thing.

Up until the last week or so I have been fairly successful at keeping thoughts of our little munchkin somewhat in the back of my brain. But the closer we get to travel, the more thoughts of Zak begin to fill the front, middle and back parts of it. 

I can pretty much guarantee by the time we hop on a plane, my brain will have been overrun with thoughts of the Zak-man. In fact, I am just going to warn you now, if you have any interaction with me over the next few months and I don't seem all there, or a little scattered... it's because a large part of my brain has moved to China. 

I had a dream about him last night. I dreamed he was a quiet little man with a lot of energy. He kept us on our toes. I CAN NOT WAIT to see if my dream comes true!!

The closer we get, the harder the waiting becomes and months that normally appear to be right around the corner, suddenly feel a million miles away. 

It's all part of the process. 

The excruciating, wonderful adoption process.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Care for the Orphaned


#9 Care for the Orphaned

Adoption is definitely one way you can do this. And, one of the side-benefits of international adoption is that it brings "global perspective" into your family in an intensely personal way. Our family has become multi-cultural since adopting Suhn. We try to incorporate a little bit of China into our American life which has been fun for all of us. But, Adoption is not the only way you can care for the orphaned.  


I am going to add one more thing to her list:

Support families around you who have adopted. Have your kids help you prepare a meal for them when they bring their little one home. Talk about the adoption process with your kids and learn about the countries people you know are adopting from. Support their fundraisers. Love on their kids.

Our church family and friends have been an amazing blessing to us in the way they have accepted Suhn, loved on her and in general embraced her as one of their own. Adoption has not exactly been an easy road for me, but I guarantee you it would have been 10,000 times harder without the amazing support, love and prayers of our family, friends and church family. 

You may not be called to adopt, but if you know someone who has, your love and support can lighten their load and give you a practical way to grow compassion and a global perspective in  your kids.